Yay!! It's Friday!!! That means it's time for the BEST SCOOP OF THE WEEK. Are you excited? I am excited. My featured blogger is excited (or at least she is acting like she is.). Who gets the coveted ice cream award this week?
Meet Melissa. She is a mom doing exactly what she wants to do right now. She's had her share of struggles in becoming a mom. She's even come head to head with some truths. Her son is a musical prodigy. She's also the luckiest girl in the world. She married an Oompa Loompa (and a cute one at that!!). Doesn't she sound fun? Well, go find out! Run. Go. We'll be here when you come back...
Back? Good. You enjoyed yourself, I can tell. I asked Melissa:
If you could travel back in time, where would you go and why?
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Honestly, my answer is simple and very personal. If I could travel back in time, I would go back to the Summer of 1987. That is the year my granddaddy passed away.
I was almost 6-years-old. My granddaddy had been a wonderful source of happiness in my life. He loved me so much, and when he suddenly passed away from a massive heart attack, I was traumatized. I vaguely remember aspects of the funeral and driving to the farmhouse to visit with family, but I was numb (my granddaddy had passed away at the “family farmhouse”). I was in shock.
Recalling those memories, I see myself from above. It’s as if I dissociated – which I very well may have done.
My mother has told me that I had an extremely hard time coping with his death. I can’t remember my granddaddy (I have essentially blocked out all aspects of him in my mind); however, whenever I think about him I almost start to cry. The emotions are extreme. To this day, I don’t cope well with death or loss. I can’t even think about it. The thoughts and feeling associated with death and dying overwhelm me.
So if I could travel back in time, I would travel back to that time period and comfort myself. I would hold “little Melissa’s” hand, hug her, comfort her, and let her know that it will be okay. I would support her and be there for her.
Because for whatever reason, I felt alone, lost, and scared. And I don’t want her/me to feel that way.
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You know, I have to admit when I first read her response, I felt like a debbie downer. Of all the silly questions out there, I just happened to pick this one.
Then, I got to thinking (she does that to me a lot, makes me think). Like Monday when she played Ian's Monkey Minute (giveaway!) Meme and said that she'd want to be famous for winning the lottery or for saving someone's life. I've always dreamed of being famous, but when you get down to the nitty gritty, she made me think. Would I really want to be remembered as the woman with the Poop blog, or would I want to be remembered for something good? Definitely, definitely something good.
I digress though.
Her answer to my silly question made me really stop and think about things. And you know what? She's absolutely right. Who wouldn't want to go back in time and hold their younger self's hand or give them a hug when they needed it most?
Thanks for playing along today, Melissa. You really are the Best Scoop of the Week. I can't wait to see what you have to say on Monday.
And before y'all leave to go to Melissa's blog (again. You know you want to), take a minute and vote for Jellybean and Scooby over at parenting By dummies. Contest ends today at midnight, so they really need you to help them prove they are indeed the cutest kids in blogland.
Ok, now what are you waiting for? Go on. Go see how Melissa's life is going, and leave her lots of comment love.
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